How I work
My approach to psychotherapy
You don't need to arrive with a clear reason.
Maybe it's a restless feeling that something isn't right, and that you can't go on like this, even though you have done so well in the past. Perhaps the coping mechanisms or distractions that once carried you are no longer working as effectively as they used to. That is enough. That is more than enough to begin.
I believe no real shift happens unless we can finally talk about it. Not talk for the sake of talking, but the kind of dialogue that is safe enough for you to say out loud what you've never said before.
Real change doesn't arrive through intellect alone, and it doesn't arrive through sheer willpower either. It arrives when we engage the whole of you: the mind that's searching for meaning, the body that carries your history, and the part of you that's longing for things to feel more aligned.
The approaches I draw on
I don't believe one single method can meet all of you. I draw from several approaches and bring whichever ones serve you best, at a safe, non-judgemental pace. You don't need to know what any of these are. What matters is that the approach fits you.
- Internal Family Systems (IFS)
- Gently maps your inner world, getting to know the protective, wounded, and burdened parts of you so they can finally step out of survival mode.
- EMDR
- Helps unburden the nervous system, processing old experiences that are still quietly triggering your reactions today.
- Somatic Body Processing
- Bridges the gap between mind and body, because the body often remembers what the conscious mind has worked hard to forget.
- Existential Psychology
- Makes space for the bigger questions of meaning, mortality, freedom and connection, when you're ready to go there.
- Relationship Counselling
- Looks at how past trauma and present wounds show up in your closest bonds, and what can shift.
None of this is a standardised template. You are an intricate, individual whole, and my work is to walk alongside you toward the things you've been talking around, gently, until they can finally be spoken, felt, and integrated.
While I work with the full range of human experience, I have a particular passion for complex and intergenerational trauma: the deep, often invisible wounds passed down through families across generations, shaping who we become long before we have words for it. If you carry a heaviness you can't quite trace to a single event, or feel the echoes of a past that doesn't entirely feel like your own, you are not alone.
Beneath all of these approaches lies one core belief: what is concealed causes suffering. So I don't chase symptoms. I go toward what's underneath them, at a pace you can actually bear.
Uncovering the invisible rules
Most of us are living by rules we didn't choose, because they were written long before we had any say in them. These are the early, often unspoken conclusions you drew about who you are, what you're worth, and what you can expect from the world.
Once in place, these rules quietly shape everything: what you notice and what you miss, who you're drawn to, how you read a silence or a tone of voice. A negative belief system doesn't just colour your experience, it organises it. And because you act from these rules without knowing it, the world keeps confirming them. Not fate, but an unconscious pattern, easy to mistake for the truth of who you are.
Waiting to be found
Carl Jung called this the work of the shadow: the parts of yourself pushed out of awareness because they once felt too painful, shameful, or dangerous to acknowledge. Until it's faced, the shadow runs the show from underneath, disguised as bad luck or "that's just how things go for me."
I lean here on the psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott, who understood that the deepest parts of us hide not because we want to stay hidden forever, but because we're waiting to be found safely. As he wrote: "It is a joy to be hidden, but disaster not to be found."
Good therapy creates a relationship steady and attuned enough that the parts of you long protected behind old beliefs can finally risk showing themselves. And once you can see the rules you've unknowingly been living by, you're no longer at their mercy. You take back the authorship of your own life, and that can begin with a single conversation.
Take the first step, at your pace
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